The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules

September 24, 2012
O'Toole is uniquely qualified to write this bookâshe's the proud mother of three "Asperkids," she's married to an "Asperguy," and is herself an "Aspie." This crucial guide to social interactions begins with a list of 125 "Need-to-Knows," which run the gamut from platitudes ("The biggest mistake you can make is being too afraid to make one.") to simple reminders ("Graciously accept compliments with a simple smile and 'thank you.'") and bits of wisdom ("Anger is a band-aid emotion. It's a real thingâbut the wound you have to heal is underneath the anger."). Frequently referencing the "neurotypical" population as a control group of sorts, O'Toole discusses these rules in further detail in the following chapters, with clear explanations couched in language that the titular tweens and teens will find accessible and easy to understand. In addition to covering more abstract topics, such as the strengths of people with Asperger's and making friends, she also reviews more practical subjects like hygiene and personal space, ending with a reprise of concise social rules, a series of comics that demonstrate social interactions, and a list of helpful websites and books. While aimed to help those with Asperger's navigate the world, O'Toole's approachable guide is also an invaluable resource for friends and family members of Aspies. Illus.